what expectations do you have about your other partner? do you expect him to always pick up your calls within 3 rings? do you expect him to always know when to say right things at the right time based on your mood? do you expect him to always be available for you whenever you have the urge to see him?
Do you always expects him to CUM when having sex with you? Do you always expects his life to centers around you? as liberal as you might be.... there is always a small portion of you that somehow expects something.
the following inccident once happened to me.....
i was in a meeting, and in a heated discussion. My phone rang. it was inconvenient for me to answer the call, so i chose to ignore it... within the next 1 hour.... i received a total of 17 miss calls and 8 sms. please not that all these took place during office hours...
when i finally returned the call.... i realise that the other party only wanted to ask if i had taken my lunch... the conversation soon turned into an argument.... revolving around the point that i "Hack Care", even though i explained that i was in a meeting. needless to say... a few days later... i said "Bye" and moved on.
At the end of the day, things usually turns sour when high expectations becomes Obsession. which usually.... turns ppl off. No matter how cute you might be.....
i know that a few readers here actually visit my blog just to read about me write about relationships. hehehe someone once told me that he like the fact that i'm writing about stuffs that happen so frequently to many ppl, but yet no one is taking about it...
anyway... would like to ask if you guys have ever multi-date before? multi-date = date a few guys at one time. was telling a friend that i used to multi-date. and he was like. WAH~~~ WHY YOU SO LIKE THAT WAN? hmmmmm........
spent some times explaining to him that....... date = go out, and see if the 2 of you are suitable for each other.... of cos..... sex is involved. :P my theory..... no point harping on LTR if the sex is bad..... haha so i think its actually quite normal to date a few guys at one time.
Attachment on the other hand.... is another different story. attachment comes after the process of dating. frankily speaking. i tends to multi-date. but when i decides to be attached, i AM VERY committed.
so if in a relationship (meaning: attached), are you prepared to be monogamy? or open relationship? of cos..... if monogamy will be the best...... but then..... knowing very well about human nature....... i am able to accept open relationship.... it really depends on the agreement made at point of attachment.
i really really really hate it when ppl keep telling me how much they wanna monogamy with me..... and yet, let me discover that they are secretly "eating" outside. so at the end of the day..... they only want the piece of cake.... and eat it.
i rem i was so pissed that someone once cheated on me behind my back, when he keeps telling me that we are in monogamy.... at the end of the day...... he only wans me to remain loyal..... while he "eats". PISSED!
always remember that...... what you can do..... your partner can also do, (even better in some case). so the next time you have the urge to "sidetrack", please remember that your partner might be doing the same thing too........
and when you managed to fight the urge to have casual sex...... please remember that....... your partner most likely, are like you....able to fight the urge to have sex with someone else.
what goes around...... comes around....
Song Of The Day... Natalie Imbruglia - TORN.
I thought I saw a man brought to life He was warm, he came around like he was dignified He showed me what it was to cry
Well you couldn't be that man I adored You dont seem to know, don't seem to care what your heart is for But I don't know him anymore There's nothing where he used to lie My conversation has run dry That's what's going on, nothing's fine I'm torn
I'm all out of faith, this is how I feel I'm cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real I'm wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn You're a little late, I'm already torn
So I guess the fortune tellers right Should have seen just what was there and not some holy light To crawl beneath my veins and now I don't care, I have no luck, I don't miss it all that much There's just so many things that I can't touch, I'm torn
I'm all out of faith, this is how I feel I'm cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real I'm wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn You're a little late, I'm already torn. torn.
There's nothing where he used to lie My inspiration has run dry That's whats going on, nothing's right, I'm torn
I'm all out of faith, this is how I feel I'm cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real I'm wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn I'm all out of faith, this is how I feel I'm cold and I'm ashamed bound and broken on the floor You're a little late, I'm already torn
hmm..... recently bought 2 new gadgets. at very cheap price. which i find are of very good value for money. both less than $40 each. how i know about these gadgets? i actually buys and read gadgets magazine like T3 and Stuff wan okie.... haha anyway that 2 gadgets were rated until... 天上有地下无 like that....
the first one.... a speaker.... not just ordinary speaker.... its a portable capsule speaker.
The sound is incredible! Rich and loud and strong, It's portable and rechargeable via USB, so you can take it anywhere you might need a big boost of sound.
Just pop open the capsule and extend the speaker - this opens the resonance chamber, increasing the bass response even higher. Plus, at a full-charge, it can run for nearly 8 hours! It's electric awesome in the palm of your hand. it cost $39.90. i bought this at Vivocity Challenger. members can purchase this at $35. and...... i bought the red one. :P
though it is really small. about the size of a golf ball... the sound is powerful enough to fill a whole room! i love using it with my PSP and MP3 player at the moment. the sound is exceptionally crisp when used with a PSP, i dunno why....
http://x-mini.com/XminiHome.html
next thing that i bought recently... Sonic Gear earpumps. EVEN when subjected to blasting music and long hours of usage, the Sonic Gear Earpump promises to belt out crystal clear tunes with meaty bass quality.
Its mouldable silicon earphone tip will fit snugly into your earbud, blocking out unwanted environmental noise. and they come in 9 different colours.
i seldom come across earphones that actually produce such powerful bass... and the best part is.. it only cost $29.90!!! and they comes with a cute casing in matching colours to keep your earpumps.... test and proven (by me of cos~) that the noise isolation is really good.... and the bass is.... superb!
hm........ what will your reaction be..... when someone tells you that..... you are the first person that he had ever seriously dated...... and..... you will definately be the last one......
what will your reaction be..... when you ask someone if you should cut your hair... and he replies you..."As long as you are happy..... i'm happy......"
What will your reaction be.... when someone tells you that he had never felt so comfortable hugging you.....
What will your reaction be.... when you tell someone your room is super messy.... and he replies you... "do you really think that i will mind? its your company that matters....."
What will your reaction be... when someone tells you that he dreamt of you... and when you ask him what you were doing in his dream.... he replied " Happily dining and chatting", when you ask him if it is a good dream... he replied "yes.... hugs"
so what will my reaction be? hehe all the politically correct answers..... :P i'm cold i know.....
i was thinking about all the peoples i have ever dated in my life. and erm.... an awful thought cross my mind.... do we secretly grade the sex we received from each individual? A? A+? B-? F?
Is sex really an important factor of a relationship? i'm not saying that good sex is a must..... but if you are gonna get serious with someone.... and if the sex is really that bad.... erm..... unless you are in an open relationship.... if not, i will say..... forget it. I tends to think of sex as a act of bonding of 2 individuals. So to me, if the sex is bad..... the bonding is bad too.
Love almost always carrys a significant percentage of physical attraction. thus if the sex is good, it will GREATLY enhance the attraction between 2 ppl. and..... of cos....... vise versa.
Ever come across someone, whom you thought that you really like a lot...... but after a session of bad sex.... you felt that you do not really like him that much afterall?
Next i will like to talk about. Secret Sex. what is secret sex? erm... ever met someone whom you are not really physically attracted to, and yet, the sex was so good that you are always dreaming about it? the cast of secret sex, usually consist of B, who dearly likes A, and A enjoys the sex with B, but yet under no circumstances will A admits to other people that he is dating / had sex with B.
At the end of the day, i just wanna say.... the higher your expectations you have on the other party, the worst the sex is gonna turn out to be. so.... let it happen naturally, without any pressure. this way, even if you do not enjoy the sex act, you will sex enjoy the process.... :P
Hmmm.... come to think of it..... i have yet to receive any complains in my sexual report card... thank god....or.... did i? just that i din't know it? hahaha oh well, i choose to be an optismistic in this case. hahaha
hm.... the whole group of friends went to KL over the weekend for holiday.... nope, i din go. due to some leave issues.
haha anyway.... some dramas happened during their trip.... once of my fren Cecil..... while walking by the road side, some motorcyclist rode past him... and snatch away his handphone... in BROAD DAY LIGHT..... horrible. haha i always thought that KL was quite a safe place to go to. cos i visit there every year, and i roam the streets by either myself or with a friend, like no body's business.... first time i heard of such things in KL. tot these things only happens in JB....
anyway.... the main thing about the KL Trip... my 2 darlins~ LC and Asura.. they actually bought me a souvinior. heard they went through quite a bit of hussle to get me this present... and ya. I LOVE IT. haha consisting of both my fav colour. purple and green. hehehe and i heard its quite expensive! bought in House Of Feng Shui i heard. :)
was struck with intense pain suddenly the other day. what happened? i dun really know. was just sitting there, then suddenly my lower right back starts to ache.... then my right balls felt like they were being squeezed.... the sensation alone is enough to cause me unable to stand upright.
haha i tot that maybe my jeans were too tight? i quickily rushed to the toilet, unbuckled and inspect my balls. and soon the pain got worst. it got so bad that i have to leave my appointments early, took a cab and went to the doctor straight.
At the doctor, (Young and Yandao Doctor!!!) after hearing my symptoms, he told me that i have very obvious symptoms of kidney stones...
my reaction:"har? i tot kidney stones these type of things only occur to pp over 40?!?!"
Doc:" not necessary. could you lie down, take off your pants and i shall inspect your testicles..."
so i took off my pants, lie on the bed, and let him meddle with my balls.....
NOTE: he was NOT wearing gloves..... and that my hands were on the bed's edge.... and erm..... his groin was pressing onto my hands..... HENG i was in too much pain to get a hardon.... hahaha if not pai say........
anyway, he inspected my balls..... which took like..... forever, inspected my back..... and told me that i can dress up now.... DAMN..... took off my pants, with ppl meddling with my groin area and i never CUM! hahaha
anyway i was refered to take X ray to see if the stone is serious enough for operation. now awaiting review. sianz..... once a while still will pain.......
anyway the below video shows what is kidney stone and how is the pain formed..... trust me..... its worst than toothache....
and........ below is a video on how they insert something into your pee hole to see the stones........ YUCKS.....
and lastly........ the operation to take out the stones.......... DOUBLE yucks........
