The Sex Issue

i was thinking about all the peoples i have ever dated in my life. and erm.... an awful thought cross my mind.... do we secretly grade the sex we received from each individual? A? A+? B-? F?

Is sex really an important factor of a relationship? i'm not saying that good sex is a must..... but if you are gonna get serious with someone.... and if the sex is really that bad.... erm..... unless you are in an open relationship.... if not, i will say..... forget it. I tends to think of sex as a act of bonding of 2 individuals. So to me, if the sex is bad..... the bonding is bad too.

Love almost always carrys a significant percentage of physical attraction. thus if the sex is good, it will GREATLY enhance the attraction between 2 ppl. and..... of cos....... vise versa.

Ever come across someone, whom you thought that you really like a lot...... but after a session of bad sex.... you felt that you do not really like him that much afterall?

Next i will like to talk about. Secret Sex. what is secret sex? erm... ever met someone whom you are not really physically attracted to, and yet, the sex was so good that you are always dreaming about it? the cast of secret sex, usually consist of B, who dearly likes A, and A enjoys the sex with B, but yet under no circumstances will A admits to other people that he is dating / had sex with B.

At the end of the day, i just wanna say.... the higher your expectations you have on the other party, the worst the sex is gonna turn out to be. so.... let it happen naturally, without any pressure. this way, even if you do not enjoy the sex act, you will sex enjoy the process.... :P

Hmmm.... come to think of it..... i have yet to receive any complains in my sexual report card... thank god....or.... did i? just that i din't know it? hahaha oh well, i choose to be an optismistic in this case. hahaha