Chemical Reaction

was reading through someone's blog, about how much he still loves the love of his life, but yet chose to break off with him, not cos they were no longer in love, but over the span of 2 years, they discovered that they have quite a big gap difference in mindset and charactor.

which sets me into thinking, why take 2 years to figure that out?

like i said before.... relationship to me, is not about how much you love me, how much i love you. at the end of the day, it will only ends up being, how much we can compromise each other.

my theory (general guideline):
1st 3 months -- get to know more about each other.

4th month -- and if the feeling is right, consider about being more serious with each other.

5th-6th month -- decide if wanna be attached or just wanna remain as friends.

24th month -- reconsider if the relationship's membership should be renewed.

jumping into relationship too fast, almost always brings about unnecessary troubles. of cos.... dating for too long, almost always ends up as "Know you too well already. a bit weird if gonna get attached".

remember watching discovery channel a couple of years back, with this show studying about human brain. and i remembered very clearly what was discussed in the show.

"Crush, love, lust.... etc is actually a result of a chemical reaction in your brain. this chemical reaction usually only lasts up to 2 years." and i remembered gashing... No Wonder many couples breaks off within 2 years!

so the 1st two years in a relationship = chemical reaction, then what is it that makes some couple lasts up to tens of years? the word COMPROMISE....

after a certain time, i think its the "gotten-used-to" feeling, the experiences between the 2 of them, that is keeping many couples together.

think about this......




如果某天我和你偶然遇见
在陌生的街头
你会不会在紧紧拥着我
还是你只是沉默擦身而过
也许前生我欠你太多
这是一场宿命
注定要为你继续的错继续的堕落
让自己再无路可走
把心伤透

习惯你让我沉沦
习惯你带我飞
恋着你，就算世界都幻灭
习惯你给我滋润
习惯你让我枯萎

离开的那一夜
不要轻轻叫醒我
让我至少保留记忆完美