was on the phone with a good friend yesterday afternoon. was informed that one day, after a movie, he and his bf decided to steal a kiss with each other while in the car (in the carpark). a while later, a friend of his bf, send his bf an sms... telling him that he saw "everything". apprently he and his wife happened to pass by the place, and saw them kissing in the car....
think both of them was very disturbed. cos his bf's friend did not know that he was gay. i din really know the whole story, cos i have not toked to the bf yet. but from my friend's voice, could hear that he felt quite bad.
i dunno about his bf... but when i chose to OUT myself to my very close str8 friends many years back, i was already mentally prepared to lose some of my str8 friends in the process. Afterall, not all can be that understanding. i am lucky in the sense that initially my str8 friends are urging me to break off with my bf then. but after a while, i introed my bf to them, they seem to have quite a good impression of him. to the extend that they are all complaining that i was bullying my bf then. (They were siding with him!)
your True friends will accept you for who you really are. those who don't, only treats you as a casual friend. you do not live your life for your friends.
i mean.... put it in this way..... when you know your friends, you already like guys.... so what difference is it gonna make, upon knowing that you are gay? you being gay, does not makes you a murderer overnight. being gay does not make you going around extorting people suddenly. when they know you, you are already like that, after they know you are gay, you are still that exactly same person whom they knew earlier. the only difference is that, they did not know you are gay then, and they do now. it should make your friendship bonds ever more tightly. not cut you off completely.
at the end of the day, what i wanna say is.... Friends who cannot like you for who you are... do not deserve your friendship. dun waste too much time brooding over him/her. they are just people who likes to judge and bitch.
they don't live your life for you, they dun pay your bills for you, they dun "Cum" for you :P thus... they shouldn't decide your life for you......
just my 2 cent's worth.
A Song for my friend and his bf.
think both of them was very disturbed. cos his bf's friend did not know that he was gay. i din really know the whole story, cos i have not toked to the bf yet. but from my friend's voice, could hear that he felt quite bad.
i dunno about his bf... but when i chose to OUT myself to my very close str8 friends many years back, i was already mentally prepared to lose some of my str8 friends in the process. Afterall, not all can be that understanding. i am lucky in the sense that initially my str8 friends are urging me to break off with my bf then. but after a while, i introed my bf to them, they seem to have quite a good impression of him. to the extend that they are all complaining that i was bullying my bf then. (They were siding with him!)
your True friends will accept you for who you really are. those who don't, only treats you as a casual friend. you do not live your life for your friends.
i mean.... put it in this way..... when you know your friends, you already like guys.... so what difference is it gonna make, upon knowing that you are gay? you being gay, does not makes you a murderer overnight. being gay does not make you going around extorting people suddenly. when they know you, you are already like that, after they know you are gay, you are still that exactly same person whom they knew earlier. the only difference is that, they did not know you are gay then, and they do now. it should make your friendship bonds ever more tightly. not cut you off completely.
at the end of the day, what i wanna say is.... Friends who cannot like you for who you are... do not deserve your friendship. dun waste too much time brooding over him/her. they are just people who likes to judge and bitch.
they don't live your life for you, they dun pay your bills for you, they dun "Cum" for you :P thus... they shouldn't decide your life for you......
just my 2 cent's worth.
A Song for my friend and his bf.
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