When Love Fades....

Do you believe in LTR?

Well, i don't. i believes that Fairytale, that comprises of the 2 charactors living happily ever after are just a fantasies, created by people who were heart-broken. Trying to encourage themselves that their next relationships will be similar to their fantasies.

how long is considered Long-Term? how do you differnciate a very short Long-Term, and a very long Short-Term relationships?

Every couple falls in love with the hope that their love will last forever. but nothing lasts forever. You might argue that you once read somewhere that whose love for someone else is forever. but they are now what you studied in your secondary school. they are now called HISTORY.

as i quoted in my previous posting, the affection you feel for someone suddenly, is called crush. a crush is actually just a chemical reaction that is caused by your brain. and that chemical reaction only lasts up to 2 years.

Love fades. no matter how hard you try to keep it interesting.

The interest of human beings is something very complex. what you gets easily, you will never cherish it. its just like a piece of steak that you won in a lucky draw. it will never taste better than the ones you paid for. People tends to take things for granted. its just in human nature.

who you always ended up with, usually are not the ones that you truely like. but yet, those you truely like, never seem to like you back.

many have dated people whom they dun mind. but as times goes by, they got so accustomed to it that they find it impossible to break away from the relationship.

i have known of many cases where even the most devoted bf strays to temptation.

My theory in dating. as long as i dun detest that person. i am quite willing to give people chances for people who likes me. it may be just a simple plain dinner, or it could be just a sleep over, or it could even be sex.

i am capable of doing either Open relationship, or monogamy. however, it must be decided upfront. before i commit myself to the relationship.

many people do not believes that i can be very monogamy, given my experience and my motto. Well. proven that i could. only if i feel its worth it.

someone once told me that they feel very insecure when being with me. as if i have the tendercy to dump them anytime. one even told me that its like a feeling of having a time bomb tied to his body. not knowing when that bomb will suddenly explode.

underneath my strong and careless appearance, actually lies a soft and fragile interior. yeap, i am quite well know for being heartless when required, i am well know for building a wall between me and others. that, all are actaully my form of self protection.

i can get over an emotion outbreak in 24 hours now. but like i always said. i am TRAINED to become like that. i shall not go into details on what i have to go through to get there. yeap, i can control my sadness, but that doesn't mean that i feel nothing. but just that overtime, i have discovered that, the more sadness you show on your face, the more difficult it will be to get over a relationship.

and yes, even if you were the one who wanted to end the relationship, you will be sad too.

people always have a misconception that, the party who initiated the breaks off, will not be as sad as the one being dumped. Wrong. the emotional attachment between 2 parties are not built overnight. they too have taken quite a number of procedures and time to come to that stage. it is painful for both party that a relationship have to end. just that one party is willing to face reality earlier.

whenever my friends are being dumped by their lovers, and they start going on and on about how much more they can give to the relationship, and start listing me a very long list of, "What Ifs" in self pity.

i merely tell them coldly, there are no What Ifs. its your rights to feel sad. its your rights to even cry. but then, after you have released your emotions, live goes on. Do Not keep going round in circles, about your What Ifs.. its become a reality that he no longer loves you, he loves someone else now. handle the situation with grace.

i simply can't stand those who use their lives to threaten their partner into going back to them. i mean... what meaning is there? he is only with you, cos he do not want to be responsible for your life. what's the point of having him, when his heart is no longer with you?

and i can only say, the more drama you are, the more impossible it is for him to come back to you.

Love shouldn't becomes hate. afterall, the 2 people did not come together overnight. they both went through a long period of "get to know" sequence... When the love cease to do its magic, let it naturally turns into a love for a friend. afterall, nobody know you more than he do, and vice versa. dun throw everything down the drain by going around bad mouthing him. what happened when the 2 of you are in pvt, shall remain in pvt.

many people realised that they do not know much about my past, is simply cos i do not like to talk about it too much.

Yes, you can let go to your close friends...... but not to every tom dick and harry that you cross path with.

i've come across people whom, upon being asked "what happened?" they will go on and on and on about how bad their ex treated them, how good they were to their ex, and what their ex did to them... blah blah blah... at the end of the day, what do you gain from telling people how bad your ex was? are you hoping that it will elevate your ethics? nah..... it will only show people how drama you can be. it will only reflects how narrow minded you really are....

okie. i'm getting too sentimental tonite i guess.....

Song Of The Day: Vonda Shepard - Baby, Don't You Break My Heart Slow