i have 2 friends. lets call them A and B ba.
A likes B, B do not detest A. so in a way, there might be a possibility between A and B right? WRONG.
as EVERYONE knows that A likes B. thus it sorta became a trend that everyone starts telling B that A is how nice how nice... and all start telling B that why he should be with A, how B should accept A without thinking, and people will starts to have comments when things is not going smooth between A and B.
i must first clarify that both A and B are both good friends of mine. i do not take sides. and i have understand both sides of the story.
Don't know why, it sorta became a celebrity romance. haha where you know, every move of brad pitt and jolie is being amplified to the max. and everyone will just starts discussing about it over coffee, dinner.
the problem is that B is not the sort of person to "anyhow" jump into a relationship. Yes, i have to admit that A is a nice guy. in fact, he is a superb guy! But then, just because everyone thinks that A is a nice guy, doesn't means that B do not need time to know each other more....
sometimes in a relationship, its not about if someone is NICE or not. There are a lot of other conditions to seriously consider about.
A and B actually agreeded to take things slow, and just hang out as friends first, cos everything starts from friends....
However, the attention they are getting is starting to become absurb. All of a sudden, everything little things that A decides, everyone starts to think that it is linked to B. when B did not meet A, people will start to ask, why B did not meet A? Go out in a group, and someone else was sitting beside B, people will ask why is A not sitting beside B?
isn't it a bit stressful? at the end of the day, does it matters if everyone thinks that A and B should be together? Do you really think there will be happiness, if B, unable to accept peer pressure, and chin chye accepts A for time being, only to breaks off a while later?
isn't what A and B really felt, that is more important in their relationship? or is "What other ppl thinks" more important in their relationship?
at the end of the day, i know that A will be more happy, if one day B accepts him, not because B is touched, not because B feels guilty, but because B feels that they can have a future together. i also know that A is happy the way it is, even if in the end, B did not choose to be with him. at least A tried. there are no regrets.
if you really know B as a friend, you should know that he is those sort of people, who, The more you want him to do certain things, he more he will detest it.
i know everyone have the interest of A and B at heart. but did it occur to you that... while you are all trying to give your point of views, hoping to talk B into accepting A NOW, it will only leads to B cutting off A totally? causing their "relationship" to die prematurely, without even them have the chance to try it out.
i am sure no one will want that to happen. for i also know that A will be very depress if things were to end up this way.
Afterall, what happened between them, only they will know the best... so shouldn't we just let them resolve these issues themselves?
whatever conclusions they made in the end, at least, is their own decision.
We, as outsiders, should not impost "what we think" into their relationship. they are not celebrity afterall. and they are not required to live their life for us... so if we really wish the best for them, we shouldn't interfere, at the very least.... no matter whether they work out a not in the end, at least they tried....and not influenced.
just my 2 cents worth.
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A likes B, B do not detest A. so in a way, there might be a possibility between A and B right? WRONG.
as EVERYONE knows that A likes B. thus it sorta became a trend that everyone starts telling B that A is how nice how nice... and all start telling B that why he should be with A, how B should accept A without thinking, and people will starts to have comments when things is not going smooth between A and B.
i must first clarify that both A and B are both good friends of mine. i do not take sides. and i have understand both sides of the story.
Don't know why, it sorta became a celebrity romance. haha where you know, every move of brad pitt and jolie is being amplified to the max. and everyone will just starts discussing about it over coffee, dinner.
the problem is that B is not the sort of person to "anyhow" jump into a relationship. Yes, i have to admit that A is a nice guy. in fact, he is a superb guy! But then, just because everyone thinks that A is a nice guy, doesn't means that B do not need time to know each other more....
sometimes in a relationship, its not about if someone is NICE or not. There are a lot of other conditions to seriously consider about.
A and B actually agreeded to take things slow, and just hang out as friends first, cos everything starts from friends....
However, the attention they are getting is starting to become absurb. All of a sudden, everything little things that A decides, everyone starts to think that it is linked to B. when B did not meet A, people will start to ask, why B did not meet A? Go out in a group, and someone else was sitting beside B, people will ask why is A not sitting beside B?
isn't it a bit stressful? at the end of the day, does it matters if everyone thinks that A and B should be together? Do you really think there will be happiness, if B, unable to accept peer pressure, and chin chye accepts A for time being, only to breaks off a while later?
isn't what A and B really felt, that is more important in their relationship? or is "What other ppl thinks" more important in their relationship?
at the end of the day, i know that A will be more happy, if one day B accepts him, not because B is touched, not because B feels guilty, but because B feels that they can have a future together. i also know that A is happy the way it is, even if in the end, B did not choose to be with him. at least A tried. there are no regrets.
if you really know B as a friend, you should know that he is those sort of people, who, The more you want him to do certain things, he more he will detest it.
i know everyone have the interest of A and B at heart. but did it occur to you that... while you are all trying to give your point of views, hoping to talk B into accepting A NOW, it will only leads to B cutting off A totally? causing their "relationship" to die prematurely, without even them have the chance to try it out.
i am sure no one will want that to happen. for i also know that A will be very depress if things were to end up this way.
Afterall, what happened between them, only they will know the best... so shouldn't we just let them resolve these issues themselves?
whatever conclusions they made in the end, at least, is their own decision.
We, as outsiders, should not impost "what we think" into their relationship. they are not celebrity afterall. and they are not required to live their life for us... so if we really wish the best for them, we shouldn't interfere, at the very least.... no matter whether they work out a not in the end, at least they tried....and not influenced.
just my 2 cents worth.
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