Thursday, August 21, 2008

My Mum

had a very tiring day at work yesterday.. reach home around 6.15pm yesterday. The moment i reach home, i received a call from my mum... she asked me where am i? and if i have eaten. initially i though its one of her routine questions again, so i merely answered "Just reach home, eaten liao" and then she put down the phone..

2 mins later, my phone rang again, with the sign "Mum's HP" appeared on my screen again. i answered the phone, in not the best of tone of voice... to my surprise, its not my mum on the other side of the line... it was my aunt. turns out, my mum have went to my aunt's house in Hougang.

"Boy ah, your mummy say her body is numb, you wanna come over to bring her go and see doctor?" i was stunn by the news, but i tot it was not very big of an issue, as she still can calls me, until my aunt tells me the seriousness.... "Your mummy say her legs got no strength, and she cannot move her legs, you might want to quickily come over and accompany her in the ambulance?" *and my mum was insisting in the background saying that she only need to come home rest a while and she will be ok....*

this time, i got really worried. i told my aunt not to let my mum come back no matter what, and i will rush over. thus quickily changed called my eldest brother and took a cab to my aunt's house. my brother will be driving over from his office.

When i reach my aunt's place, i saw her half lying on the sofa, but i only realise how serious was it, when i was helping her to sit upright.... her lower part of the body was not moving.... i quickily call the Ambulance, dispite her protest.

the ambulance reach the place within 5 mins. we were quite surprise on the efficiency of the ambulance. My brother reached around the same time as the ambulance. just before the paramedic wanted to bring her away, she said she need to pee.. my aunt and i helped her into the washroom. my mum really couldn;t walk. but what worries me is that, standing outside the washroom, i heard her and my aunt saying something that, she felt the urge to pee, but just cannot pee.....

she gave up, and i helped her into the medic bed and we sets off to Changi Hospital.

upon reaching the hospital, me and my bro waited at the waiting area, while the doctor examines my mum. a few hours of waiting later, and a couple of X ray later, the doctor came out. and mentioned something about he couldn't find the cause on why my mum is paralyse.

another few hours later, he rushed out to inform us that he suspect 2 problems.

1) Spinal injury

2) he mentioned that from the X ray, my mum have an enlarged main blood vessel, and suspect that the blood vessel is leaking.

and that he might have to send her for CT scan and RMI scan.

so for the next few hours, we waited.... it was later confirmed that my mum is having spinal problems. and that she will have to be warded.

then the doctor told us that she will grant us access into the "Restricted" area to console her. we went in. the moment i saw her on the bed, i put on a broad smile on my face. nope not that my mum is looking good, in fact, all of a sudden, she look like she aged a lot, and she looks weak, with a neck braces, lying on the bed. i was feeling very sad actually, but i still force myself to put on a smile, telling her, in a casual tone, that she will be okie, so as not to make her worry. all the while knowing how serious her condition is.

so after we are done with the admission paper, she was brought into some special wards. where further waiting takes place. anyway, after the specialist was done checking on her, she brought us one side to explain the situation.

according to the specialist, my mum is having SLIP DISC. many of my friends have slip disc problems, but what worries the doctor is that... my mum is having slip disc on her neck... and told us that it could be due to the fall a few months back.

a few months ago, i posted that my mum broke her wrist in a fall at home. she fell down while she was trying to climb up the cabinet. and her knees suddenly gave way. she landed on her back, her hands hit the ground and cracked. and also..... her head knocked onto a chair. during that time, i brought her to A & E too.

to our horror. the specialist said that the slip disc could have caused some damages during that fall. She advised us that she will have to consult her senior doctor, saying that a surgery is most proberly a must. but she also warned us that... these type of surgery that is to be carried out on the neck area, is not optimistic...

a chill of cold air ran down my spine.

i have yet to bring her to taiwan, thailand, china. i have yet to tell her that i love her. and i have yet to tell her that i knows that she dotes on me... i cannot imagine what my life will be without her. so i keep telling myself. SHE WILL DEFINATELY BE ALRIGHT....she loves me too much to desert me.

i have stayed in the hospital for more than 11 hours. it saddens me to see my mum lying there helplessly on the bed. felt like doing something for her, yet all i can do, is just to tell her everything will be ok...

just now before i left the place... she was holding onto my hands, trying assure me that she will be okie...

God, please watch over my mum... and i really love her a lot. please do not let anything happen to her....

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Sorry I have to say this.

For it really irks me when people say, "Everything will be well", "Take care", "Dont worry", etc etc when its obviously clear that everything is NOT well, and we all will take care whether you tell me or not.

Again to me that is hypocrisy - trying to cover up reality with well sounding words and generating a delusion with positive spins.

Maybe the people saying those words are not hypocrites.

Maybe it is just a bad habit acquired unthinkingly because everybody does it.

Maybe it is just easier to be seen to fulfil the obligatory burdens of friendship, than really be a true friend.

And the reality is that it is always so much easier to say words than really to give meaningful and feeling heart.

The latter is unseen and maybe unheard and silent too. But it is certainly more real than empty words. For it is always easier to seem to care than REALLY care.

For anyone, even a stranger, can say, "Take care", can't they?

Life is about living and loving.

Life is about today and not tomorrow.

Love every minute when they are still minutes.

We ALL have a FINITE number of minutes to give, and receive, love.

No words will change that, and no words, or tears, can bring back or hide those precious minutes wasted. What is wasted is wasted. What is left is in your hands.

And certainly no words, or smile, can substitute or cover up a missing heart.

Anonymous said...

Hi, I chanced upon your blog cause I was looking for articles on slipdisc. I am too a sufferer from slip disc but a minor condition. As such, I hope to share with you a website I found about people who suffer from back pains.

http://www.rebuildyourback.com/index.php

All the best to your mum's recovery.